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Feelings Of Inadequacy

Posted in Life with tags , , , on October 29, 2021 by darkjade68
Art by Isaac Andrews

Original Article HERE

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Inadequacy

Inadequacy—not being good enough—is experienced by everyone at one point or another. But when feelings of inadequacy—low self-worth, incompetence, powerlessness, and even shame—begin to interfere with the ability to maintain relationships, succeed at work or in school, or feel happy and at peace, exploring the underlying issues that incite those feelings may help.

ROOTS OF INADEQUACY

There are many events in life that can contribute to feelings of inadequacy, from childhood neglect to workplace harassment. Most often, feelings of inadequacy are rooted in childhood experiences, like having had overly critical parents, cruel peers, shaming authority figures, or, perhaps, having not had opportunities to engage in positive, challenging experiences that help children gain feelings of competence and adequacy. Mental health conditions like depression, anxiety, codependency, and posttraumatic stress can also contribute to feelings of inadequacy.In adulthood, workplace harassment or bullying can undermine an individual’s self-confidence and cause that person to begin to doubt his or her worth and abilities. Parenting, too, can produce feelings of inadequacy as many parents struggle with feeling like they cannot adequately provide for their children financially, emotionally, or physically. Those parents who were made to feel inadequate when they were children may set unrealistic goals for themselves in their role as parents, thus perpetuating feelings of inadequacy as they fail to meet those high standards.

Feelings of inadequacy may also be triggered or worsened by messages in the prevailing culture, particularly in the media, promoting standards of beauty, strength, fame, power, and wealth that are impossible for most people to attain. We may see other people as happy, successful, empowered, and good, and when we compare this image with our own perceived failings, we feel inadequate. In reality, we have no idea what really goes on in most other people’s lives and minds, and we often overlook our own strengths and successes, so such comparisons are bound to do far more harm than good.

SIGNS AND SYMPTOMS

The experience of inadequacy leads people to view themselves negatively in a number of ways, and they often assume that other people view them in the same manner. Some people enter intimate relationships with the expectation (often subconsciously) that their partners will fill that void, or that simply being in a relationship will cause them to view themselves as adequate. However, feelings of inadequacy may in fact be heightened in a relationship, as they suspect their partners judge them as they judge themselves. In truth, gaining feelings of competence and self-esteem are personal processes that cannot be provided by other people.

People may attempt to mask or hide their feelings of inadequacy from themselves and from others in a number of ways. Some people may isolate themselves socially or otherwise close themselves off to the advances of others for fear of being truly “seen.” Others may develop compulsions, such as over-spending or overeating, as a way to cope with feelings of inadequacy. And some people project their feelings of incompetence onto others as a way to avoid difficult emotions, or they may attempt to control others or their environment in order to regain a sense of control when inadequacy leaves them feeling powerless. People who abuse their intimate partners, for example, may do so because feelings of inadequacy compel them to blame their partners for any personal and relationship challenges and use abuse as a form of power.

People who feel inadequate may also experience:

  • Anxiety, particularly with regards to performance
  • Heightened sensitivity and self-criticism
  • Reluctance to accept or trust in the affection of others
  • Low self-worth
  • Perception of failure
  • Fear of rejection
  • The inability to accept praise
  • Feelings of powerlessness
  • The inclination to conform or succumb to peer-pressure

HOW THERAPY CAN HELP INADEQUACY

Therapists help people uncover and address childhood experiences that lie at the source of negative feelings in order to recover from them. Working with a therapist, people identify their assets and expand upon them; clients learn how to acknowledge their strengths and minimize their weaknesses so that they can feel confident and adequate, regardless of their limitations.

Inadequacy can keep a person from tackling many of life’s challenges, from career changes to relationship difficulties. Through therapy, a person can learn to develop more realistic expectations for oneself, and discover activities, relationships, and experiences that can build a sense of competence.

Tatoo

Posted in Life, Poem, Poetry, Writing on October 14, 2021 by darkjade68

Tatoo

The Pain remains the same…

Nothings changed

Never enough…

Pumps through my veins

Broken towers…

Blue light in

I still remain…

PICTURE CREDIT – Splash Black

DarkJade-

Charlie Watts 8 Favorite Songs Of All Time (RIP)

Posted in Life, Music with tags , , , , , , on September 19, 2021 by darkjade68

John Arlott and Michael Charlton 4th test match Eng/Australia july 1956 (Couldn’t find the video footage for this one)

Fehren Light

Posted in Life, Poem, Poetry, Writing on September 15, 2021 by darkjade68
The Meaning of the Blue Light Ray Angel Color

Fehren Light

It seems there’s no way out…

And no way in

The choices placed before us…

Have no perfect end

I wish that I could help you…

I know that’s not what you need

But when I look around us…

Destructive, painful greed

PICTURE CREDIT – Blue Light

DarkJade-

Climate Crisis – Going Vegan Is The Easiest First Step Towards Reducing Your Carbon Footprint, Let Me Help

Posted in Climate, Climate Change, Climate Crisis, Environment, Life, Vegan, Vegan Cooking, Vegan Recipes on August 16, 2021 by darkjade68

The main unspoken reason that people don’t want to give up Meat & Dairy, is taste

My girlfriend has been a vegan activist for years, and during outreach people will ask about protein etc., but generally what it comes down to is, they don’t want to give up their burger

I get it

For me it wasn’t all that hard going vegan (Been vegan since 2013), dairy gave me a lot of sinus issues, and meat just felt heavy

Also, I’d been both vegetarian and vegan at different times prior to finally going with veganism and sticking with it

What finally pushed me over the fence, was watching a film about factory farming/the treatment of the animals prior to killing them

But enough of that, you don’t even need to watch a film like that, or see pictures of the animals, with what’s happening with our climate, that is reason enough to make the switch

There’s no more time to let other people deal with global warming, it’s here

Our main goal is to slow it down at this rate, which is within our grasp to do, but only if we literally start changing our earthly habits right now

But, that can be overwhelming thinking about all of that, which is why I’m doing this post, to give people a ‘first step’ towards changing for ourselves and our planet

Diet

First of all, I have a Vegan Cooking Blog Here James Cooks Vegan

It’s always been my opinion, that asking people to go vegan without giving them suggestions in regards to what to eat, isn’t the best strategy

So many people never even try veganism because they simply don’t know where to start in regards to foods

Protein

Soy (Tofu, Tempe Etc.), Beans (Canned or Dried) (Soak and cook)), Beyond Meat (It’s not the same as meat, but it’s awesome if you want something like it (Burgers are largely about condiments anyways)), Lentils just to name a few

Here’s A Comprehensive Chart of Vegan Protein Sources post as well

Keep in mind, going Vegan doesn’t mean everything that you eat is going to be healthy

Like any other diet, that’s up to you

A Typical Day For Me

Breakfast;

I love having a glass of 80% mineral water, 20% Orange Juice with Ice (Have it like 5 or 6 days a week, it keeps my sugars down, OJ is so sweet alone)

My general Breakfast choices are

  1. Tofu Scramble (Oil in pan, slice and dry tofu on paper towels (Optional), Crumble the Tofu in the pan, add vegetables (Tomato, Green Onion, Bell Pepper, it’s your choice… Or no vegetables at all… I also add Pepper (Optional), and on occasion some shredded Vegan Cheese (Optional)
  2. Oatmeal (I add Flax Seeds*, Peanuts (Any nut works though), Bananana and/or Blueberries… Sometimes Strawberries if they’re in season)
  3. Rice Cake with Peanut Butter and Jelly (Rice cake just reduces simple carbs, I sometimes use a half or whole piece of bread as well)
  4. Just Egg (It’s a Vegan Egg product that is just awesome, mix it with the same things as the Tofu Scramble)

*Flaxseed’s health benefits come from the fact that it’s high in fiber and omega-3 fatty acids, as well as phytochemicals called lignans. One tablespoon (7 grams) of ground flaxseed contains 2 grams of polyunsaturated fatty acids (includes the omega 3s), 2 grams of dietary fiber and 37 calories.

Lunch Choices

There’s so many (Here’s a few)

  1. Tofu Stir Fry (Oil in pan, fresh broccoli in pan, Tofu sliced and dried on paper towels, then put in pan, Fresh or Powder Garlic, Yellow Curry, Light Soy Sauce, Peanuts, Sometimes Onion (Other Vege’s are optional, I sometimes use Frozen Mixed Asian Vegetables, or Frozen Mixed Vegetables)
  2. Chili (This can be Lunch or Dinner) – Sautee Onions in pan (Usually on 4 out of 10 Heat, better not to cook Chili too fast), once they’re ready I add Canned Beans (Pinto, Black Etc. whichever you like), I drain the liquid in the can first, and rinse the beans off, then add them to Chili Pan… I then add some Tomato Sauce (Maybe a half a can, totally up to you), some Stewed Tomatoes (Optional), Chili Powder (As much as you like) and some Cholula sauce
  3. Vegan Turkey Sandwich (I don’t like to eat a lot of bread, but on occasion I have a Vegan Turkey sandwich or wrap)

Some Dinner Choices

  1. Vegan Spaghetti (There’s all kinds of Vegan friendly Noodles, sometimes you can use actual pre-cut zucchini or squash cut into noodles, but any noodles will due other than Egg Noodles of course, and any others out there that I don’t know about that have animal products in them) I will generally then use Beyond Beef crumbled, cook it first, then add Tomato Sauce (Cook Spaghetti Sauce on 4 out of 10 too, or you might burn the sauce), Fresh Garlic, Dried Basil, Dried Oregano, Olive Oil, Sometimes a bit of Red Wine (Optional), Sometimes Fresh Tomatoes (Or Canned Stewed), Sometimes Fresh Zucchini (Optional), Sometimes instead of Beyond Meat I might use Tofu, and/or nuts (Generally Almonds, but most any kind of nut will do)
  2. Vegan Tacos – For these I’ll generally use Beyond Meat, Break it up and cook it, then add some Tomato Sauce, some Frozen Corn, some Cholula Sauce, I’ll then use Corn Tortillas/Flour Tortillas/Hard Shells (Any Tortilla or shell you’d like really, as long as it’s vegan, which most are), cut up some lettuce (Or Kale Etc.), cut up some Fresh Tomatoes, rinse some of the Frozen Corn in a strainer and add some of that on the finished taco, Vegan Cheese (Find some you like, there’s lots of vegan cheeses, I prefer the block ones that I shred, they taste better than the pre-shredded ones I’ve found, but I found that with real cheese as well), Avocado (Avocado is the best, one of the definitely Vegan Staple foods, definitely keep them around, as a snack you can even cut one in half and fill it with Hummus (Which is another great Vegan Snack/Food to have around))
  3. Dried Beans – For this it takes a bit more focus, you basically soak Pinto/Black/Lentil Etc. Beans*, then you cook them
  4. Beyond Burgers – I tend to use the Beyond Meat (Which comes in Ground Beef like packages) as opposed to the Beyond Patties, they just taste better to me… Put whatever you like on these burgers, and use (Or don’t use) whatever buns or bread (There are all kinds of other types of Vegan Pattis, I just prefer the Beyond Meat)

*To soak beans the traditional way, cover them with water by 2 inches, add 2 tablespoons coarse kosher salt (or 1 tablespoon fine salt) per pound of beans, and let them soak for at least 4 hours or up to 12 hours. Drain them and rinse before using.

That should get you started, also check out my Vegan Blog Link at the top of this post for all sorts of other Vega Recipes

Trust me, of all the ways we can help our environment (Which is more important than ever with all the weather changes it’s causing), going Vegan is the easiest way to start doing your part

Plus, in my experience, going Vegan has made me an extremely creative cook

Nuff said,

Thanks for listening, good luck, and if you have any questions just reply below

Climate Change, The Latest IPCC Report, And Ways We Can Help

Posted in Climate, Climate Change, Climate Crisis, Environment, Life on August 9, 2021 by darkjade68

The Latest IPCC (Intergovernmental Panel on Climate Change) Report – HERE

The Top 10 Things We Can Do To Help – HERE

Time

Posted in Life, Poem, Poetry, Writing with tags on June 8, 2021 by darkjade68

Time

It’s longer than you think…

Time

But valuable none the less…

Spirits call upon you now

To rise…

To shine

Through waves of light and water…

If you let go

Forget the rest…

If you close your eyes

Just resist…

PICTURE CREDIT – Time

DarkJade-

Prejudice Has Never Been Ok…

Posted in Life, Love with tags , , , , on March 19, 2021 by darkjade68

Prejudice has never been ok… I’m a white Caucasian male, grew up with a single mother (Woman are my heroes)… Had 3 African American cousins, and a best friend in 9th grade… My nephew is gay. It’s not enough. ‘We’ have to change this

Tragic

Posted in Life, Music, Poem, Poetry, Writing on February 24, 2021 by darkjade68

Tragic

Paralyzed, we do not move…

Don’t do a thing

Things crumble and crash around us…

How could you not know

It’s unforgivable…

Intolerable

And yet we look the other way…

Ignore our common dismay

What’s wrong here…

What can we do

It’s just not logical…

It’s just not true

DarkJade-

Please Be Part Of Saving Our Planet & Ourselves

Posted in Climate, Climate Change, Climate Crisis, Environment, Life with tags , on February 15, 2021 by darkjade68

ORIGINAL ARTICLE HERE

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How You Can Stop Global Warming

Healing the planet starts in your garage, in your kitchen, and at your dining room table.

Nations around the world are upping their game in the fight against climate change, even as President Trump recently announced the U.S.’s withdrawal from the Paris Agreement. And despite this reckless move, American mayors, state leaders, county officials, governors, major companies, and millions of citizens across our country have pledged that they’re “still in” when it comes to the agreement, and supporting the goal of limiting future warming to well below 2 degrees Celsius.

Even better, a new initiative by former New York City mayor Michael Bloomberg gives the urban layer of this movement a boost. He’s asked mayors from the 100 most populous cities in the country to share their plans for making their buildings and transportation systems run cleaner and more efficiently. The 20 that show the greatest potential for cutting the dangerous carbon pollution that’s driving climate change will share a total of $70 million in technical assistance funding provided by Bloomberg Philanthropies and partners.

It’s important to remember the equally vital contributions that can be made by private citizens—which is to say, by you. “Change only happens when individuals take action,” Aliya Haq, deputy director of NRDC’s Clean Power Plan initiative, says. “There’s no other way, if it doesn’t start with people.”

The goal is simple. Carbon dioxide is the climate’s worst enemy. It’s released when oil, coal, and other fossil fuels are burned for energy—the energy we use to power our homes, cars, and smartphones. By using less of it, we can curb our own contribution to climate change while also saving money. Here are a dozen easy, effective ways each one of us can make a difference:

1. Speak up!

What’s the single biggest way you can make an impact on global climate change? “Talk to your friends and family, and make sure your representatives are making good decisions,” Haq says. By voicing your concerns—via social media or, better yet, directly to your elected officials—you send a message that you care about the warming world. Encourage Congress to enact new laws that limit carbon emissions and require polluters to pay for the emissions they produce. “The main reason elected officials do anything difficult is because their constituents make them,” Haq says. You can help protect public lands, stop offshore drilling, and more here.

Call on the Biden administration to take bold action in its first 100 days

TAKE ACTION

2. Power your home with renewable energy.

Choose a utility company that generates at least half its power from wind or solar and has been certified by Green-e Energy, an organization that vets renewable energy options. If that isn’t possible for you, take a look at your electric bill; many utilities now list other ways to support renewable sources on their monthly statements and websites.

3. Weatherize, weatherize, weatherize.

“Building heating and cooling are among the biggest uses of energy,” Haq says. Indeed, heating and air-conditioning account for almost half of home energy use. You can make your space more energy efficient by sealing drafts and ensuring it’s adequately insulated. You can also claim federal tax credits for many energy-efficiency home improvements.

4. Invest in energy-efficient appliances.

Since they were first implemented nationally in 1987, efficiency standards for dozens of appliances and products have kept 2.3 billion tons of carbon dioxide out of the air. That’s about the same amount as the annual carbon pollution coughed up by nearly 440 million cars. “Energy efficiency is the lowest-cost way to reduce emissions,” Haq says. When shopping for refrigerators, washing machines, and other appliances, look for the Energy Star label. It will tell you which are the most efficient.

5. Reduce water waste.

Saving water reduces carbon pollution, too. That’s because it takes a lot of energy to pump, heat, and treat your water. So take shorter showers, turn off the tap while brushing your teeth, and switch to WaterSense-labeled fixtures and appliances. The EPA estimates that if just one out of every 100 American homes were retrofitted with water-efficient fixtures, about 100 million kilowatt-hours of electricity per year would be saved—avoiding 80,000 tons of global warming pollution.

6. Actually eat the food you buy—and make less of it meat.

Approximately 10 percent of U.S. energy use goes into growing, processing, packaging, and shipping food—about 40 percent of which just winds up in the landfill. “If you’re wasting less food, you’re likely cutting down on energy consumption,” Haq says. And since livestock products are among the most resource-intensive to produce, eating meat-free meals can make a big difference, too.

7. Buy better bulbs.

LED lightbulbs use up to 80 percent less energy than conventional incandescents. They’re also cheaper in the long run: A 10-watt LED that replaces your traditional 60-watt bulb will save you $125 over the lightbulb’s life.

8. Pull the plug(s).

Taken together, the outlets in your home are likely powering about 65 different devices—an average load for a home in the U.S. Audio and video devices, cordless vacuums and power tools, and other electronics use energy even when they’re not charging. This “idle load” across all U.S. households adds up to the output of 50 large power plants in the U.S. So don’t leave fully charged devices plugged into your home’s outlets, unplug rarely used devices or plug them into power strips and timers, and adjust your computers and monitors to automatically power down to the lowest power mode when not in use.

9. Drive a fuel-efficient vehicle.

Gas-smart cars, such as hybrids and fully electric vehicles, save fuel and money. And once all cars and light trucks meet 2025’s clean car standards, which means averaging 54.5 miles per gallon, they’ll be a mainstay. For good reason: Relative to a national fleet of vehicles that averaged only 28.3 miles per gallon in 2011, Americans will spend $80 billion less at the pump each year and cut their automotive emissions by half. Before you buy a new set of wheels, compare fuel-economy performance here.

10. Maintain your ride.

If all Americans kept their tires properly inflated, we could save 1.2 billion gallons of gas each year. A simple tune-up can boost miles per gallon anywhere from 4 percent to 40 percent, and a new air filter can get you a 10 percent boost.

11. Rethink planes, trains, and automobiles.

Choosing to live in walkable smart-growth cities and towns with quality public transportation leads to less driving, less money spent on fuel, and less pollution in the air. Less frequent flying can make a big difference, too. “Air transport is a major source of climate pollution,” Haq says. “If you can take a train instead, do that.”

12. Shrink your carbon profile.

You can offset the carbon you produce by purchasing carbon offsets, which represent clean power that you can add to the nation’s energy grid in place of power from fossil fuels. But not all carbon offset companies are alike. Do your homework to find the best supplier.