Archive for the Life Category

Nevermind

Posted in Life, Poem, Poetry, Writing on May 11, 2022 by darkjade68

Nevermind

Vastness…

The open sea of thought

It’s a miracle we’ve made it here alive…

Sometimes I wonder

Wonder and get lost…

In all the things that are possible

But often seem their not…

‘Sweet dreams and flying machines in pieces on the ground

Oh, I’ve seen fire and I’ve seen rain

I’ve seen sunny days that I thought would never end‘ – James Taylor

How I long for the morning sounds

As frost and leaves lay upon the ground

It seems impossible this bliss and confusion will ever end…

Savor every moment until the when

PICTURE CREDIT – Dark Waters

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Life, Love & Misery

Posted in Life, Love, Poem, Poetry, The Written Word, Writing on April 30, 2022 by darkjade68

Life, Love & Misery

Come what may…

I am not alone

The Tranquil fog of my mind…

The deepest, purest love

PICTURE CREDIT – Shattered Dreams

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Krakoom

Posted in Life, Love, Poem, Poetry, Writing on April 10, 2022 by darkjade68

KRAKOOM

Like red beams of light, it enters the black surface

Veins of truth, of pain, of night

I am not with you…

No

I’ve never been

And yet…

Our love is real

Our lives entwined…

I love you more than you could ever know

Your light, your love, friendship and more

But I am alone…

I’ve always been

I stay… I go

Dark and deep…

Still, complete

I wait for that thing…

That confirmation, that need

I wait too long…

The wings, they grow

And I am above surface again…

Take to the sky

Shallow

Unknown

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The Pain Of Loneliness

Posted in Life, Poem, Poetry, Writing with tags , , on February 6, 2022 by darkjade68

The Pain Of Loneliness

Though my heart is full…

I am alone

The pain unbearable…

The reasons

Unknown…

I think of you, hoping for relief

Inside, my heart bleeds

Some tumbling need…

I remember when things were so much worse

And yet, here I be…

Who or what do I look to

Are these answers truly in me…

I have so much to give

So much…

To share

But what if no one cares…

What am I to do

Art Above Alone in the Dark

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No Words – RIP Sidney Poitier

Posted in Acting, Actor, Film, Life with tags , on January 7, 2022 by darkjade68

Feelings Of Inadequacy

Posted in Life with tags , , , on October 29, 2021 by darkjade68
Art by Isaac Andrews

Original Article HERE

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Inadequacy

Inadequacy—not being good enough—is experienced by everyone at one point or another. But when feelings of inadequacy—low self-worth, incompetence, powerlessness, and even shame—begin to interfere with the ability to maintain relationships, succeed at work or in school, or feel happy and at peace, exploring the underlying issues that incite those feelings may help.

ROOTS OF INADEQUACY

There are many events in life that can contribute to feelings of inadequacy, from childhood neglect to workplace harassment. Most often, feelings of inadequacy are rooted in childhood experiences, like having had overly critical parents, cruel peers, shaming authority figures, or, perhaps, having not had opportunities to engage in positive, challenging experiences that help children gain feelings of competence and adequacy. Mental health conditions like depression, anxiety, codependency, and posttraumatic stress can also contribute to feelings of inadequacy.In adulthood, workplace harassment or bullying can undermine an individual’s self-confidence and cause that person to begin to doubt his or her worth and abilities. Parenting, too, can produce feelings of inadequacy as many parents struggle with feeling like they cannot adequately provide for their children financially, emotionally, or physically. Those parents who were made to feel inadequate when they were children may set unrealistic goals for themselves in their role as parents, thus perpetuating feelings of inadequacy as they fail to meet those high standards.

Feelings of inadequacy may also be triggered or worsened by messages in the prevailing culture, particularly in the media, promoting standards of beauty, strength, fame, power, and wealth that are impossible for most people to attain. We may see other people as happy, successful, empowered, and good, and when we compare this image with our own perceived failings, we feel inadequate. In reality, we have no idea what really goes on in most other people’s lives and minds, and we often overlook our own strengths and successes, so such comparisons are bound to do far more harm than good.

SIGNS AND SYMPTOMS

The experience of inadequacy leads people to view themselves negatively in a number of ways, and they often assume that other people view them in the same manner. Some people enter intimate relationships with the expectation (often subconsciously) that their partners will fill that void, or that simply being in a relationship will cause them to view themselves as adequate. However, feelings of inadequacy may in fact be heightened in a relationship, as they suspect their partners judge them as they judge themselves. In truth, gaining feelings of competence and self-esteem are personal processes that cannot be provided by other people.

People may attempt to mask or hide their feelings of inadequacy from themselves and from others in a number of ways. Some people may isolate themselves socially or otherwise close themselves off to the advances of others for fear of being truly “seen.” Others may develop compulsions, such as over-spending or overeating, as a way to cope with feelings of inadequacy. And some people project their feelings of incompetence onto others as a way to avoid difficult emotions, or they may attempt to control others or their environment in order to regain a sense of control when inadequacy leaves them feeling powerless. People who abuse their intimate partners, for example, may do so because feelings of inadequacy compel them to blame their partners for any personal and relationship challenges and use abuse as a form of power.

People who feel inadequate may also experience:

  • Anxiety, particularly with regards to performance
  • Heightened sensitivity and self-criticism
  • Reluctance to accept or trust in the affection of others
  • Low self-worth
  • Perception of failure
  • Fear of rejection
  • The inability to accept praise
  • Feelings of powerlessness
  • The inclination to conform or succumb to peer-pressure

HOW THERAPY CAN HELP INADEQUACY

Therapists help people uncover and address childhood experiences that lie at the source of negative feelings in order to recover from them. Working with a therapist, people identify their assets and expand upon them; clients learn how to acknowledge their strengths and minimize their weaknesses so that they can feel confident and adequate, regardless of their limitations.

Inadequacy can keep a person from tackling many of life’s challenges, from career changes to relationship difficulties. Through therapy, a person can learn to develop more realistic expectations for oneself, and discover activities, relationships, and experiences that can build a sense of competence.

Tatoo

Posted in Life, Poem, Poetry, Writing on October 14, 2021 by darkjade68

Tatoo

The Pain remains the same…

Nothings changed

Never enough…

Pumps through my veins

Broken towers…

Blue light in

I still remain…

PICTURE CREDIT – Splash Black

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Charlie Watts 8 Favorite Songs Of All Time (RIP)

Posted in Life, Music with tags , , , , , , on September 19, 2021 by darkjade68

John Arlott and Michael Charlton 4th test match Eng/Australia july 1956 (Couldn’t find the video footage for this one)

Fehren Light

Posted in Life, Poem, Poetry, Writing on September 15, 2021 by darkjade68
The Meaning of the Blue Light Ray Angel Color

Fehren Light

It seems there’s no way out…

And no way in

The choices placed before us…

Have no perfect end

I wish that I could help you…

I know that’s not what you need

But when I look around us…

Destructive, painful greed

PICTURE CREDIT – Blue Light

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Climate Crisis – Going Vegan Is The Easiest First Step Towards Reducing Your Carbon Footprint, Let Me Help

Posted in Climate, Climate Change, Climate Crisis, Environment, Life, Vegan, Vegan Cooking, Vegan Recipes on August 16, 2021 by darkjade68

The main unspoken reason that people don’t want to give up Meat & Dairy, is taste

My girlfriend has been a vegan activist for years, and during outreach people will ask about protein etc., but generally what it comes down to is, they don’t want to give up their burger

I get it

For me it wasn’t all that hard going vegan (Been vegan since 2013), dairy gave me a lot of sinus issues, and meat just felt heavy

Also, I’d been both vegetarian and vegan at different times prior to finally going with veganism and sticking with it

What finally pushed me over the fence, was watching a film about factory farming/the treatment of the animals prior to killing them

But enough of that, you don’t even need to watch a film like that, or see pictures of the animals, with what’s happening with our climate, that is reason enough to make the switch

There’s no more time to let other people deal with global warming, it’s here

Our main goal is to slow it down at this rate, which is within our grasp to do, but only if we literally start changing our earthly habits right now

But, that can be overwhelming thinking about all of that, which is why I’m doing this post, to give people a ‘first step’ towards changing for ourselves and our planet

Diet

First of all, I have a Vegan Cooking Blog Here James Cooks Vegan

It’s always been my opinion, that asking people to go vegan without giving them suggestions in regards to what to eat, isn’t the best strategy

So many people never even try veganism because they simply don’t know where to start in regards to foods

Protein

Soy (Tofu, Tempe Etc.), Beans (Canned or Dried) (Soak and cook)), Beyond Meat (It’s not the same as meat, but it’s awesome if you want something like it (Burgers are largely about condiments anyways)), Lentils just to name a few

Here’s A Comprehensive Chart of Vegan Protein Sources post as well

Keep in mind, going Vegan doesn’t mean everything that you eat is going to be healthy

Like any other diet, that’s up to you

A Typical Day For Me

Breakfast;

I love having a glass of 80% mineral water, 20% Orange Juice with Ice (Have it like 5 or 6 days a week, it keeps my sugars down, OJ is so sweet alone)

My general Breakfast choices are

  1. Tofu Scramble (Oil in pan, slice and dry tofu on paper towels (Optional), Crumble the Tofu in the pan, add vegetables (Tomato, Green Onion, Bell Pepper, it’s your choice… Or no vegetables at all… I also add Pepper (Optional), and on occasion some shredded Vegan Cheese (Optional)
  2. Oatmeal (I add Flax Seeds*, Peanuts (Any nut works though), Bananana and/or Blueberries… Sometimes Strawberries if they’re in season)
  3. Rice Cake with Peanut Butter and Jelly (Rice cake just reduces simple carbs, I sometimes use a half or whole piece of bread as well)
  4. Just Egg (It’s a Vegan Egg product that is just awesome, mix it with the same things as the Tofu Scramble)

*Flaxseed’s health benefits come from the fact that it’s high in fiber and omega-3 fatty acids, as well as phytochemicals called lignans. One tablespoon (7 grams) of ground flaxseed contains 2 grams of polyunsaturated fatty acids (includes the omega 3s), 2 grams of dietary fiber and 37 calories.

Lunch Choices

There’s so many (Here’s a few)

  1. Tofu Stir Fry (Oil in pan, fresh broccoli in pan, Tofu sliced and dried on paper towels, then put in pan, Fresh or Powder Garlic, Yellow Curry, Light Soy Sauce, Peanuts, Sometimes Onion (Other Vege’s are optional, I sometimes use Frozen Mixed Asian Vegetables, or Frozen Mixed Vegetables)
  2. Chili (This can be Lunch or Dinner) – Sautee Onions in pan (Usually on 4 out of 10 Heat, better not to cook Chili too fast), once they’re ready I add Canned Beans (Pinto, Black Etc. whichever you like), I drain the liquid in the can first, and rinse the beans off, then add them to Chili Pan… I then add some Tomato Sauce (Maybe a half a can, totally up to you), some Stewed Tomatoes (Optional), Chili Powder (As much as you like) and some Cholula sauce
  3. Vegan Turkey Sandwich (I don’t like to eat a lot of bread, but on occasion I have a Vegan Turkey sandwich or wrap)

Some Dinner Choices

  1. Vegan Spaghetti (There’s all kinds of Vegan friendly Noodles, sometimes you can use actual pre-cut zucchini or squash cut into noodles, but any noodles will due other than Egg Noodles of course, and any others out there that I don’t know about that have animal products in them) I will generally then use Beyond Beef crumbled, cook it first, then add Tomato Sauce (Cook Spaghetti Sauce on 4 out of 10 too, or you might burn the sauce), Fresh Garlic, Dried Basil, Dried Oregano, Olive Oil, Sometimes a bit of Red Wine (Optional), Sometimes Fresh Tomatoes (Or Canned Stewed), Sometimes Fresh Zucchini (Optional), Sometimes instead of Beyond Meat I might use Tofu, and/or nuts (Generally Almonds, but most any kind of nut will do)
  2. Vegan Tacos – For these I’ll generally use Beyond Meat, Break it up and cook it, then add some Tomato Sauce, some Frozen Corn, some Cholula Sauce, I’ll then use Corn Tortillas/Flour Tortillas/Hard Shells (Any Tortilla or shell you’d like really, as long as it’s vegan, which most are), cut up some lettuce (Or Kale Etc.), cut up some Fresh Tomatoes, rinse some of the Frozen Corn in a strainer and add some of that on the finished taco, Vegan Cheese (Find some you like, there’s lots of vegan cheeses, I prefer the block ones that I shred, they taste better than the pre-shredded ones I’ve found, but I found that with real cheese as well), Avocado (Avocado is the best, one of the definitely Vegan Staple foods, definitely keep them around, as a snack you can even cut one in half and fill it with Hummus (Which is another great Vegan Snack/Food to have around))
  3. Dried Beans – For this it takes a bit more focus, you basically soak Pinto/Black/Lentil Etc. Beans*, then you cook them
  4. Beyond Burgers – I tend to use the Beyond Meat (Which comes in Ground Beef like packages) as opposed to the Beyond Patties, they just taste better to me… Put whatever you like on these burgers, and use (Or don’t use) whatever buns or bread (There are all kinds of other types of Vegan Pattis, I just prefer the Beyond Meat)

*To soak beans the traditional way, cover them with water by 2 inches, add 2 tablespoons coarse kosher salt (or 1 tablespoon fine salt) per pound of beans, and let them soak for at least 4 hours or up to 12 hours. Drain them and rinse before using.

That should get you started, also check out my Vegan Blog Link at the top of this post for all sorts of other Vega Recipes

Trust me, of all the ways we can help our environment (Which is more important than ever with all the weather changes it’s causing), going Vegan is the easiest way to start doing your part

Plus, in my experience, going Vegan has made me an extremely creative cook

Nuff said,

Thanks for listening, good luck, and if you have any questions just reply below