Archive for the Life Category

RIP Roger Moore (007)

Posted in Film, Life, Movie, Movies with tags , , on May 23, 2017 by darkjade68



Posted in Life, Poem, Poetry, Writing with tags , on April 22, 2017 by darkjade68



She keeps up warm…

And Cool

She is the Strength below us

The Sky around us

She Breathes as we do…

Hungers, and Lives as we do

She is Beautiful

She is a Gift

She is our Home





Posted in Life, Writing on April 10, 2017 by darkjade68



Appreciate What, And Who You Have In Your Life…

Because The Moment You Don’t, Something Will Happen, And You’ll Plea To The Universe That Things Might Be Back The Way They Were A Week Ago…

It Is Human Nature To Want More, And To Want To Progress…

But It Is Also Our Nature To Take Things For Granted…

Take A Hold Of That, And You’re Likely To Have A Better Life…


So Much Of Life Is About Perspective…

Don’t Be Apathetic, And You Will Reap The Rewards Of A More Fulfilling Life…

Rich, Or Not… Dreams Fulfilled, Or Not… Be Awake.



The Principles Of Rain

Posted in Life, Poem, Poetry, Writing on March 27, 2017 by darkjade68



Shed your skin…



Let Truth guide you…

Chime in

Quit wasting time…

It is Vast

But it is Fleeting…

Avoid not the Mirror

It does not lie…

Sing if you have to

Know you’re right…

No one can tell you how to be you

Break the ice…

Shatter Device

Shade of grey it…

Make yourself at home

Be The Light

And Breathe…

Breathe Deep

Balance is everything



Posted in Life, Psychology, Writing with tags , , , , on March 22, 2017 by darkjade68


I Was In Corporate America For A Long Time… Well, A Long Time For Me Anyway 1988-2002 (With A Bit More In 2006)

I Work From Home Now, But My Girlfriend Is Out There… And Some Of The Things She’s Recently Been Dealing With, Took Me Back, And Inspired Me To Write This.

This Is About Employees, And For Employers.

Share It With Whoever You Like… Even Your Boss, lol



 by James Mahoney/DarkJade

Do you care about your employees?

If the answer is no, than they know it.

If the answer is yes, then show it.




In a world of cell phones, laptops, internet, drones, telephones and Emails…

One thing is clear.

Are heads are down, and our minds are closed to what’s around us.

Now is a time when it is harder than ever to make a direct, human connection with someone.

Yes technologically speaking, it’s a small world.

But in reality, it’s still a large one.

We’re locked in a tunnel vision of a sort, to whatever it is we’re focused on…

…be it in our ears, or in our hands.

How many millions of people have been killed, or mamed, because of drivers on cell phones, either talking, or worse, texting.

The numbers are there, even if we can’t/don’t see them.

But this isn’t a lecture…

…this is an illumination of a path that lays right before us.

And all we have to do is unplug, look and listen…

…this is the preface of true direct connection.

Out of our heads…

Into our bodies…

In the moment.



For the sake of story, lets call our boss ‘Sam’.

Sam – “How are you today John?

John – “I’m good sir, thank you.”

This isn’t enough.

Who are these people that work for you?

That work with you?

Sam – “Well, this is John… He works in our IT department.”

Ok, well, that sucks.

Let me rephrase.

“Does this excite you?”

Do you now wish you worked in IT for Sam?

Who is John?

Time for you to find out.



Take your employees to lunch.

Take them in groups, take them in droves, but take them to lunch.

If possible, one on one lunches are the best.

One On One;

  • Find out about their lives before they came here.
  • Find out about their current lives.
  • Find out about theirs hopes and dreams

And don’t fire them if their dreams don’t include working for you.

Keep it Personal, even if they include their career aspirations.

The world doesn’t revolved around the employer.

Never has…

…never will.

Despite the ‘prisons’ they might create.

Have lunch with your Employee (‘s) once ever 6 months (One On One, Or Group If Necessary)

Group Lunches;

  • Fun (Your Boss is taking you to Lunch)
  • Find out where they want to eat (Within Reason)
  • Interact/Make the rounds with each of them, even if it’s just a pat on the shoulder and a hello
  • Ask them to choose somewhere they’d all like to go in 3 months, as a group, with you (Bowling, Laser Tag, The Movies, Miniature Golf Etc.)

Bring Your Employees Lunch;

It’s ok to also bring Lunch in for your Employees…

…but you don’t need to be present for that.

But if you are, it’s probably a good thing.

Bringing lunch in does not replace One On One Lunches, or taking them Out For Lunch.



It is essential that your Employees aren’t answering to self serving/absorbed @#%#@!

Or you can kiss each of them goodbye…

Some might stay and take it, but they will be miserable.

Is that what you want?

Then don’t hire ‘not good’ Managers.

What makes a Good Manager?

Maybe I’ll go into that another time, but this is about the Employee (Employees).



Pull them aside for one on one meetings.

Make sure things are doing ok in their work environment.

Ask them to be honest, their answers will likely directly affect the environment…

…thus making them ‘Co Architects’ of their work happiness.

Ask them how their lives are outside of work.

Check on them.



They are not the only ones that will benefit from this.

Do this every 3 months.

You don’t need to fix their outside lives, but show them you care.

Listen… Learn.

And any information they can tell you that will improve their at work life, well, there you go, you just saved money on getting a Consultant.

They know best what’s up…

…and the quickest route to fix it.



Figure out a way to give Employees an opportunity to make more money…

To grow with the Company.

Don’t keep all the new profits for yourself.

When you walk into your Company, you want to be greeted by ‘Co Creators’.

People who directly affect the success you’re having.

You want ‘Warm Authentic’ smiles coming your way.

Earn them.



Do you care about your Employee (‘s)?

Do you know your Employee (‘s)

Knowing them will make it a whole lot easier to care for them.

Lets begin…



The Psychology Of Trust Issues And How To Overcome Them

Posted in Life, Psychology with tags , on March 22, 2017 by darkjade68




Trust—the act of placing confidence in someone or something other than yourself—is social superglue. It is the binding for the deepest love, the strongest friendships, and the world’s communities. Modern society is built on trust, and in the absence of trust, fear rules.

With this in mind, it is easy to understand how people with trust issues might have difficulty engaging in certain social contexts and leading the most fulfilling life they can. Some of the most common settings in which individuals display a lack of trust are in interpersonal relationships (romantic or otherwise), business dealings, politics, and even the use of technology. And with these different facets of life becoming increasingly interconnected, mistrust could conceivably spread from one part of a person’s life to another.

Where Do Trust Issues Come From?

Trust can take years to develop, but it can be destroyed in an instant. People who have issues with trust have often had significant negative experiences in the past with individuals or organizations they initially deemed trustworthy. For example, studies show that children of divorced parents and those from abusive households are more likely to have intimacy, commitment, and trust issues in future relationships.

While trust issues sometimes develop from negative interactions experienced during early childhood, social rejection during adolescence or traumatic experiences during adulthood can also lead to trust issues for an individual. Betrayal in the form of infidelity in romantic relationships can cause trust issues throughout a person’s life. Significant loss of financial resources or perceived injustice at the hands of authority figures can even cause strong feelings of mistrust toward institutions rather than people. The fragile state of the nation’s economy, for example, has resulted in many people losing trust in the banking system and government organizations.

In short, when a person’s trust is repeatedly violated, his or her belief system can be affected profoundly, causing future concerns with placing trust in people or organizations.

Trust Issues: Psychology and Common Beliefs

A person with trust issues may harbor negative beliefs about trust and may find themselves thinking limiting thoughts, such as:

“I can never let my guard down.”
“If I open up I will only get hurt again.”
“Everybody is out to get me.”

A person with these kinds of thoughts may construct social barriers as a defense mechanism to ensure that trust is not lost again. These barriers are often a person’s way of avoiding the pain, rejection, or guilt associated with mistrust.

A belief system marred by violations of trust can significantly burden an individual both mentally and physically. Overwhelming anxiety and stress can easily become everyday companions, facilitating the gradual erosion of both mind and body. Thankfully though, these shackles need not remain forever.

How to Regain Your Trust

Before any issue can be resolved, you must first recognize that there is an issue. That honest admission will serve as the bedrock for all your endeavors to re-establish trust in others.

Many types of therapy will help people regain the ability to trust others, and, in fact, the therapeutic relationship itself provides an exercise in trust. With a thorough understanding of a person’s initial development and psychology, a qualified mental health professional can help an individual understand where his or her trust issues come from, and develop effective ways to foster trust in relationships, interactions, or institutions. During therapy sessions, sources of mistrust can be identified and properly addressed so that people are able to dispel or cope with future fears. Group therapy for trust issues can also be particularly effective as people undergoing treatment for similar mental health concerns can learn to build trust with the therapist and other members of the group.

Trust is vital for internal harmony and positive social functioning. The ability to effectively trust others helps people live happy, rich lives. As mentioned before, trust is the foundation of most healthy relationships, but sometimes that foundation is shaky because of events in the past. If you’re interested in working through past wounds that shook your trust or increasing your capacity to trust, consider seeking the help of a therapist, spiritual leader, or other qualified mental health professional to begin rebuilding that important foundation.


How To Deal With Chronic Fear And Anxiety

Posted in Life, Writing with tags , , on March 17, 2017 by darkjade68



How to Deal with Chronic Fear and Anxiety

chronic%20anxiety%20manIn this section we address things you can do on your own to work with fear and anxiety. We do not cover the many valuable techniques and therapies available when working with professional psychologists or other providers. These are essential for those who have experienced trauma or are suffering from intense chronic fear or anxiety.

Avoid avoidance

The only way to deal with fear is to face it. Avoiding it prevents us from moving forward—it makes us anxious. Therapists can be invaluable in helping us work through our avoiding strategies. If you have experienced trauma, it is especially important to work with a therapist to create a safe environment where you can face your fear and reconstruct your memories.Learn more about mindfulness

Another technique in milder situations is to use mindfulness meditation techniques to sit with what is arising. All you need to do is sit quietly and observe the present moment. If fear or anxiety arises, recognize it. Watch it rise up. Notice how it feels in your body. Observe it as it is; don’t try to get rid of it or change it.