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An Interesting Article I Came Across
Frustration. It winds you up and can take so much out of you.
Because it not only sucks energy but also distracts you and can steal quite a bit of time.
So what can you do?
Well, sometimes that frustration can actually be a positive and can give you a new idea or angle on things. Or it can give you the power to keep going just a little bit more until you reach your goal.
But when you start going in circles, when the frustration just makes you mad or your mind foggy and the day is starting to slip through your fingers then there are steps you can take.
There are ways to turn such a state of mind or day around.
Into something better. Into something more helpful. And into something that will make you feel better again.
Step 1: Be here now.
When you are frustrated then you are often somewhere in the future in your mind. Somewhere you wish you would be. Or you are reliving a stumble or failure from your past.
Snap out of those headspaces and calm down by focusing your mind and attention on what is now, right here at this moment.
You can do so by for example:
- Focusing on your breathing. Sit down, close your eyes and just focus on the air going and out of your nose for 1-2 minutes. Take calm and slightly deeper breaths than usual and breathe with your belly and not your chest.
- Focus on what is around you at this time. The sun shining in through your window. The kids playing out in the street and the cars and people going by. The smells and feeling of the clothes and warmth of the sun on your skin. Do this for 1-2 minutes to get your attention back to the present moment.
Step 2: Appreciate what you do have.
After you have pulled your attention back to where it can be most helpful focus it on what is still positive in your life.
The quickest and easiest way to do so is to focus it on appreciating what you do have.
A favorite of mine during this step is the important things we may sometimes take for granted. Like for instance:
- A warm home and a roof over your head.
- Plenty of drinkable water.
- Not having to go hungry.
- Access to the internet.
- Your friends and family.
Spend a few minutes on this and you’ll find much to be grateful for.
Step 3: Focus on what you can do right now.
With your attention in the present moment and your mood a more grateful and positive one it is now time to get constructive about what frustrates you.
You can do that by asking yourself:
What is one small step I can take right now to improve this situation?
It may be to see what you can learn from what frustrates you and to try another path towards your goal.
Or it could be to try one more time and to keep going (because not all things in life will come to you the first, second or third time you try).
Or it could be you simply realizing that you may have taken on a bit much lately or things have been tough and that you need to take this evening or a few days to just relax, take care of yourself and perhaps simplify a bit.
So that you can recharge and then get back into moving towards what you want out of your life in a more focused way.
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(The Title Of This Post Comes From An Article I Was Just Reading, Which You Can Find HERE)
It wasn’t until this year, at age 48, that I finally began to consciously feel the fact that my dad left when I was two-ish
More than that, my parents got back together a couple years later and tried again to no avail
At the time he left the second time, I was glad
I remember thinking that they weren’t a good match
Growing up with a single mom was a powerful, amazing thing
Sure, it wasn’t perfect… Mainly because there were times when my brother and I were home alone
But she really loved us, and showed it
But now at 48, a few months after losing my Third Uncle out of Four
I find myself running out of Father-ish figures in my life
My last post was about Leonard Nimoy who I really admired
When he passed, I do believe I lost one of the Men I looked up to/admired to in my life
And it affected me a lot
But after losing this Third Uncle, who I really didn’t see very much during my life
But got along well with, and always kinda knew he was out there
I’ve hit a point that I think I have some healing to do in this area
Growing up without my Dad around, I always felt I adapted, as humans can do to a degree, and thus didn’t really need one
My mom has been with her Boyfriend for the last 39 years
And he and I are very close
But she told him, and any men she dated right from the start, not to parent us
And so, though I admire her boyfriend very much
He generally never Fathered me
On a Creative and Spiritual Level during the last 15 years, I’ve had a lot of growth
But in other ways, I’ve had some difficult things I’ve been dealing with
Namely some Anxiety issues
And though I had some serious breakthroughs last year
By the end of October last year, I found myself having to deal with them more again
Mainly, I suspect, due to several very stressful situations that were going on
Including losing my Uncle
I’ve been giving myself time to Heal…
And I have Healed greatly
But, like I say, just during this first part of the year I’ve come to realize more and more how much not having an emotional available father in my life is
I have had my Dad in my life my whole life…
But it’s a certain kind of relationship
One where we love, and like one another
But also one where I don’t feel he really knows me all that well
And now he’s 77, and I really don’t feel there’s any point in trying to convey this to him
He’s battling with being older I feel
And is doing the best he can
I used to call him every week or two, just to keep in touch
But that has become harder recently
The pain I’ve been feeling is very real in regards to all of this
And I am doing the best I can to cope, heal, and grow
Thanks for Reading/Listening
Hopefully some of you out there can relate
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